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How to Make All Holidays More Enjoyable for Children with Autism

  • katebromley8
  • Jun 23
  • 3 min read
People are at an outdoor table, celebrating with sparklers under string lights. Food, drinks, and a cake are on the table, creating a joyful atmosphere.

Holidays are often synonymous with joy, celebration, and togetherness. However, for children with autism, they can also bring sensory overload, disrupted routines, and unfamiliar social expectations. By approaching holidays with intentionality, flexibility, and empathy, families can create meaningful and inclusive experiences that are not only enjoyable but empowering.


Understanding Autism and Holiday Stressors

Autistic children often thrive on predictability, structure, and sensory balance. Holidays, however, introduce a wave of unpredictability: crowds, loud music, travel, new foods, and changes in schedule. These shifts can lead to anxiety, shutdowns, or meltdowns. Understanding your child's sensory and emotional needs is the first step toward holiday harmony.


Preparing Ahead: The Power of Predictability

Preparation is a game-changer. Use visual schedules, calendars, or social stories to outline what the holiday will look like. Whether it's counting down the days or showing photos of unfamiliar relatives or locations, giving children a clear roadmap of what to expect can dramatically reduce anxiety.


Customizing Traditions: Flexibility is Key

Not every tradition needs to be followed by the book. Maybe your child prefers looking at lights from the car instead of walking in a crowded park. Or perhaps they enjoy watching a holiday movie alone instead of participating in a group activity. Adapting traditions to fit their preferences fosters inclusivity and respect.


Sensory-Smart Decorations and Environments

Bright, blinking lights or noisy decorations can overwhelm a child with sensory sensitivities. Opt for soft lighting, muted colors, and limit sudden or animated displays. Designate a quiet space at home or at gatherings where your child can retreat to regulate.


Thoughtful Gift-Giving Strategies

Surprises can be stressful. Let your child be part of the gift-selection process, or preview gifts before wrapping. Choose toys or tools that align with their interests and sensory needs—think weighted blankets, sensory kits, or favorite-themed items.


Inclusive Holiday Meals and Routines

Holiday meals don’t need to be elaborate or unfamiliar. Serve preferred and safe foods alongside traditional dishes. Try to stick to regular meal times and seating arrangements. If needed, let your child eat separately in a quiet spot.


Practicing Social Scenarios and Coping Tools

Role-playing holiday greetings, gift exchanges, or party etiquette can build confidence. Equip your child with a calming toolkit: noise-canceling headphones, fidget toys, visual cue cards, or a preferred item for comfort.


Managing Transitions and Travel

If travel is involved, prepare with travel-specific social stories, maps, and videos of the destination. Pack favorite snacks, toys, headphones, and other comfort items. Maintain routines where possible—even small consistencies like bedtime stories can help.


Hosting and Visiting Etiquette for Families

Let hosts know your child’s needs in advance. Ask for a quiet room, minimal scents, or dimmed lights if possible. Encourage open communication about your child’s preferences and needs, and don't hesitate to leave early if signs of overwhelm appear.


Planning for Meltdowns: Prevention and Recovery

Watch for signs of sensory overload: covering ears, withdrawal, pacing, or heightened agitation. Have an exit strategy and a plan for what to do if a meltdown occurs—this could be a walk outside, time in a car, or using calming sensory tools.


Leveraging Community Resources and Events

Look for local autism-friendly events like sensory Santa visits, quiet Easter egg hunts, or inclusive fireworks displays. Many autism organizations host holiday events tailored for neurodiverse families—tap into these for additional support and connection.


Celebrating the Child: Making Holidays Meaningful

Above all, center the celebration around your child. Let them choose decorations, food, or activities. Involve them in the planning process as much as they are able. This empowers them and ensures the day reflects their needs and interests.


Helpful Checklists for Holiday Readiness

General Holiday Checklist:

  • Visual schedule or social story ready

  • Sensory-friendly decorations

  • Familiar foods available

  • Quiet space designated

  • Calming tools packed

Travel-Specific Checklist:

  • Travel social story/map

  • Comfort items and snacks

  • Charged devices with preferred media

  • Headphones and fidgets

  • Emergency contact info and medical essentials

Gathering/Event Day Checklist:

  • Talked through expectations

  • Exit plan established

  • Quiet room located

  • Hosts informed of accommodations

  • Backup plan in place


Remember: Every child is unique.

These strategies can be tailored to your family’s needs and the specific holiday. What matters most is making your child feel safe, supported, and included.


FAQs

  1. What are the best calming tools for autistic children during holidays?

    • Weighted blankets, noise-canceling headphones, fidget toys, and chewable jewelry are popular options.

  2. How early should we start preparing for a holiday?

    • Start at least 1-2 weeks in advance, using visual aids, countdowns, and discussions.

  3. What if extended family doesn’t understand my child’s needs?

    • Share educational resources, be honest about expectations, and set clear boundaries.

  4. Can holiday traditions be skipped or modified?

    • Absolutely. Adapt traditions to your child’s preferences, or create new ones that bring joy.

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